Blog: Say I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY
When someone has gone through something traumatic I’ve learned to say two things… I don’t know how you feel & I don’t know what to say. But I do say those things. I show up & try to make myself available for them to cry, laugh, talk, work through things. Pretending to know what they’re going through I have found is offensive most of the time. Just being a warm emotionally available person seems to work the best. I’ll go to the movie, initiate conversation & ask what I can do to help. Do you have food? Do you have money? These are things I ask. I will also bring up the person or situation & ask if they want to talk about it. This is sensitive, but when approached in love I have found it to bring a lot of healing to hurting people.